I admit to reading People magazine once in a while because I succumb to the blaring headlines. Recently, one particular issue caught my attention. The cover featured the "Revenge of the Exes - Who's Happy? Who Can't Let Go?" with flattering pictures of Reese, Jessica and Bridget, three beautiful women who have experienced public celebrity break-ups.
The article inside, "THE EX WARS" asked this newsworthy question. "Who's still hurting, and who's moved on?" The phrase "moved on" or "moving on" is contantly used in these types of articles to reflect the admiration of our society for the partner who is portrayed as the stronger more resilient person. At the other end of the spectrum, we are to pity the weak, vulnerable partner who just can't seem to "move on" or stop grieving. What do you personally think about "moving on"?
Is "moving on" the most important aspect of a healthy perspective? Is it a godly perspective?
While I understand that in some situations, the person left behind must process the loss and make their quality of life a priority, I wonder if "moving on" works. It seems to me that there is plenty of emotional residue that can't be swept under the rug by simply "moving on."
Of course, these thoughts stimulated a discussion with my husband who seems to have an opinion about everything! His contribution? Be the rejectee not the rejector. What he means is that we have a responsibility as Christians to keep our relationships clean. The cleanest kind of relationship keeps the responsibility on the stronger partner to love with unconditional love as much as possible, as long as possible. The stronger actually absorbs the rejection and "moves on" only when Jesus provides an antidote for the pain and guilt - a liberal shower of His unconditional LOVE that is finally embraced by an individual as the only real Truth that matters.